Let’s get straight to the point:
A lot of fathers are labeled DEADBEAT DADS because they refuse to jump through the hoops of often bitter exes. Think about it. A relationship didn’t work out. We all have it happen. Okay, moving on, now what? Oh yeah… we have a kid together… Well, I really value fatherhood and I grew up without an active father so I want to be in my child’s life for all those special moments. The problem is, I’ve moved on but the ex hasn’t. What’s a man to do?
What’s a man to do when a bitter, vindictive, spiteful ex has the reigns to a part of him manhood that he deems so important? You know what he does? He jumps through hoops.
A bitter ex will tell you you can’t get your child unless:
Basically, you jump through hoops to the satisfaction of a woman that can’t be satisfied and if for some strange reason you get tired of jumping through hoops then *POW!* you are labeled a deadbeat. Next to being a woman beater, there’s no greater “Scarlet Letter” for a man to wear in shame. (Even being labeled a felon can get you street cred and the label of a “bad boy”).
In closing, we need to really, REALLY, examine a system that values GENDER EQUALITY yet places so little value on the rights of fathers. For emotionally damaged women to have so much power over a man is mind boggling to me. For women to not understand how a man can walk away and remove himself from such hoop jumping, even at the risk of loosing the relationship with his children is equally baffling…